NTA - I am so very sorry for what you have had to endure. That is the type of behavior you expect and CORRECT from 4 and 5 year olds. Just wondering why you're questioning OP (the child) and not the actual adults in the house. The step siblings are acting like children, the step-dad seems like a sexist prick, and the mom is doing absolutely nothing to make sure OP is loved, valued, and safe in their own home. Your sister destroyed your fathers day gift to your dad. The stepfather is a misogynist AH who lets his children behave like three year olds with tit-for-tatting retributions and treats OP like she is nothing. NTA. Not sure how a therapist fits into that scenario, but it had to be asked.

Do what you need to do to keep yourself out of that situation. You deserve better and I hope you become happier. Very different from the way the play ended, actually). Lol what an AH response. It's pretty common in other cultures for parents, other relatives etc. And sorry your mom is not taking care of you.

Archived post. That would make you a shitty parent, which I hope you don't intend to be.
I suspect its because girls arent supposed to be having sex and a big bed would promote that? Honestly, it was a hostile, toxic and negative environment. This entire post is making my blood boil and I would've thrown major hands if I were in OP's shoes. NTA. <~~~ but you dont have to tell him that last part. NTA. It's freaking Harry Potter over here. Frankly, I side eye him. I dont get how the 20 yo step-brother didnt get in trouble at all for convincing a 16 yo to help do his dirty work like theres already a power imbalance because of the crappy man business and now theyre letting him get away with saying OP helped him? If there aren't enough bedrooms for each teen to have their own it would honestly be better for one to take the living room.

they have problems that need to get fixed. Im glad your uncle is able to care for you. Your sister does not have the right to demand you out of a shared space or lock you out of it. When you are 16 there aren't a lot of things that one, "Allows," to happen to oneself. What an effed up family. Your step-siblings treated your mom and you horribly. The internet seems to agree. Your mom and your entire step-family are AHs. Ngl he did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in 5 weeks time and I'm very grateful for that though this was his decision. You gotta be proud of yourself and your late dad feels the same. It isn't sensible to expect two teenagers to share a room while giving one obvious preferential treatment. Your moms family is mad at her for good reason. NTA. My kids are their age and wouldnt dream of it. I understand your stepsister needed to study in peace, but you did ask if the brother had permission to get the paints. He needs to realize that. Guess whose job it is to address this? what is it about becoming pregnant that suddenly makes one more of a public.. property, for lack of a better word? NTA because your future child is the most important thing. I mean, what is she supposed to do?

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Use a non shared space. Your stepfather has raised some real AH children. Stepsis may have a reason to be acting entitled to the space. Sometimes stories are so heartbreaking I can't believe people like this exist. However I have to ask, why on earth did you allow your brother any access to your sisters things? The lock on the door can be considered a form of abuse. It happens. It's just easier not to punish stepsibling when she's picking at her etc. If they had handled the fight between his kids properly this would not have been a problem. You've been mistreated throughout. If you have two or more bathrooms and people sharing a bedroom it works out okay. It would appear that you've had more than your fill of these vile and vicious trolls. Those brats treated you and your mother horribly. The Mom - Maybe I'm wrong, but parents should care more about their children's feelings than what their images look. Step families where teenage/adult children haven't grown up together and now are forced to be in close quarters are a relatively new thing too though. Your uncle didnt come take you to stay with him and your mothers family didnt suddenly become angry with her because of this incident. Your mother is using you as a sacrificial lamb and is probably now upset that your stepsister's bad behavior (and their bad parenting) has been made public. Especially with the whole mom death thing being "her fault" in the movie.

Did it upset the grands that their gchildren would speak that way about other, or only when others mirrored their words back them? J is a model. :-(. I have to wonder if your stepdad also moved on quickly - issues like this don't come out of nowhere and it sounds like she hasn't been given the care she needs and is acting destructive and violent to her siblings to get attention. Yea your mom is a fucking asshole for making you live in this hostile environment. It is unconscionable that you have been forced out of your own room so your stepsister can have an art studio. From disregarding your daughters grieving process in regards to her father's death, allowing her to be raised in an unhealthy gender roll dominated environment (two kids splitting a smaller room then a single child because he pees standing up?) I hate her but my sister doesnt so she has been given lots of mums things :/. My cousin needed a longer bed because he was 6'5" and his parents had this weird thought that he should be able to have his feet AND head on the bed at the same time but other than that, I got nothin'. I think there was a remake but I didn't see it. They have clearly been raised to become entitled, immature, and unsympathetic. They are getting what they deserve. Be free honey. It may be it wasnt mentioned - or it was excused because she destroyed his console first. They're adults in their 30s now. It is what is but you can create a bind where there isnt one. All rights reserved. Thats the family she chose. I would not return tbh. Why? NTA. I hope things get better.

Sorry. They deserve to be shunned while they house a monster and don't protect their child from her violent impulses. They just kinda meshed everything together soon after OP's father died and got rid of the dad's stuff without even considering her feelings in all of this. I cant imagine saying that to anyone and not offending them. NTA. (Not an excuse for what she did). NTA. Im so sorry you were trapped in this increasingly abusive situation thanks to your mom. She didn't protect you when you got locked out of the room so sister could paint - and the fact you two have to share a small bedroom cause your step brother is a "man" - and it also sounds like your step sister has some serious problems since every time she gets in a fight with someone she has to ruin something important to them. You shouldn't be forced to share a room with someone you can't stand, nor should you be forced to be around people who casually destroy your property on a whim. You owe nothing to them. one thing I don't understand, are your stepsiblings that stupid or naive or were they pretty young when their mother told them about "the curse"? It wasnt their own bathroom. In the post, she said she told her family to stop but her dad replied that it was "typical stuff men challenge each other with" and that she was "ruining the fun. Being locked out of your own room is unacceptable.

I never broke stuff on purpose after I turned 8 or something. Oh my god. I hope this move ends up helping you in the long run. Nta. Youre not obligated to have toxic people around you. If a bunch of your family's pissed off, I doubt this is the *only* problem.

I do destroy stuff when I'm angry so it's relatable. NTA. She let them treat you like that and this was the last straw. These people dont care about you. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. NTA. while i do understand that they've been fed these feelings throughout childhood by their mom, they're adults now, they should know better, If you bring them into your life they will be cruel to your child. The one I saw involved a couple going on a countryside retreat and then being tortured and sexually assaulted by the evil occupants of said lodge. No joke. I thought this too and we trialled it for a while. The fact that she's eighteen but still acts like a spoilt bratty child suggests that she's been coddled for far too long and has no sense of her actions having consequences, and clearly your mother and stepdad have not been doing enough to rein in her runaway sense of entitlement.

It sounds like your stepsister and stepbrother are monsters to each other - destroying each others' stuff is not normal, especially for their ages. Whoa, wait, I totally read over the ages of the two siblings. Her feelings were't considered when her stepdad wanted to remove all signs of her dad from the house. Correct. (Thats also fine, stepkids don't always bond with their step parents and its completely fine so long as they are civil!) We also learned to resolve conflict amongst ourselves, because nothing prevents sleep better than an angry sister. Edit to add this : Younger kids do typically share a room with the parents for the first year or with each other when older but when they get to be teens it's ideal for them to have their own space - either a separate room or like you did with using a curtain or a part of the living room etc. I don't think her mom ever will. Also, how does that meet and greet go? 4 sisters in their room. It sounded pretty horrific though and given everything in my real life I would never watch that. If someone did that to my mum I would probably wouldnt mind going to jail for a couple weeks over what I would do to them . (So was I by then though.). They all suck and you should not let them pull you back. Stay far away from her. There was some discussion about the plans between her and extended family (one grandmother with her partner, uncles, aunts) about the space distribution. You deserve a better life. Your mother has been failing you for years. Id cut these people out of my life as an adult. Im just so very sorry. NTA - Absolutely NTA. Their actions are now receiving their consequences. So sad. Then you need an adult to advocate for you to figure out a better situation. Incredible that the stepsiblings are spoiled and destroying peoples property. And since she lives there all the time, it makes sense she has more space and comfort. Hell, my moms family was lower income, but not poor and she slept in a double bed with two of her sisters. they did all that and he wants them to be apart of your life? THIS!