Coping with unemployment during a midlife crisis is a very common problem. I never had the luxury of being so spiritual, philosophical, etc. If you dont need a lot of it to get by, then youre wasting your time, talent and energy hating other people and their chase for money. You want to be a musician, youre not an exception. Start by being honest, especially when you are asking for help. After all, your parents wont be able to take care of you forever. You already know that you want to do music but this whole follow-your-passion thing doesnt fly with your family and friends. In my last years of high school, I maintained good grades, but I was a punk rock kid who hated authority and didnt want to answer to anyone. Before you say its easy for me to talk having been to Uni, I wouldnt have trouble getting a job in the troubled times were living in, right? I was laid off 9/2020 due to the pandemic which I thought was my dream job finally. And I think its really true,..I surely cant blame the whole world (Planet) for only those few truly bad humans whore selfish and destroyer of everything in the name of profits. Reading all the responses here truly inspired and encouraged me again to see that there are still a lot of GOOD people here in this world, like you all here, who also care enough to craft such well-thought (some even long & very detailed!) I am 37 years old and unemployed since last 4 years. Only apply for 1 -3 three job opportunities at any one moment, in any given pathway at once. Release the echo of abuse and create new narratives for your life.

This question is in the General Section. Been back to JA many times, planning on another month-long trip. I dont have a great answer, but I suppose that wont stop me from responding. Thats being a grown up Im afraid. These five categories are an excellent starting point to help understand the relationship between ourselves and the reason for working.

Actors go to acting school and land auditions and take risks.

He also kept working, made it up to bartender at the restaurant, went back to school in business and is developing a recording studio business. Fear only undercuts your nature. No matter how impossible it may feel, know this: Nothing is impossible, the word itself says Im possible! Not all humans are driven by money. Dont worry so much about not getting there. Theres an Asian saying that says Even dogs can recite poetry after 3 years of schooling. If everybody else can do it, why not you?

Also, in Asian society their sense of self or who they are is fulfilled through relationships. It may help if you find something you are very passionate about and simply let your love and passions help you make the next decisions.

Nothing youve said leads me to believe youre cursed or out of hope. Please read and accept our website Terms and Privacy Policy to post a comment. In many Asian families children are never asked what they want to do once they grow up. Im 43 I quit my job 5mths ago and I feel the same way. Among other things, what you will learn is that beyond the ignorance of people who dont see the evil of money is that their capitalist vision is filled with a belief system that is predicated on (get this) helping other people solve their problems and address their needs and creating things that hold value for others. Also, I dont think our situations are all that different. Well do something else then. In general, in families that children are never asked about what they want to do when they grow up dont have a chance to declare or refine their distinctiveness. Should I consider myself weird? I always want to create music that can be at Best Inspiring, touching many hearts out there; but unfortunately, thats not what the Music Industry now wants nowadays. That is not true. Become a Patron and Join Awakening Dragon for More Teachings & Online Retreats. @mattbrowne you are truly right. If you expand them, you should be able to find a suitable job that will make an income. Taoism 101 Class Session 1 Deep Dive Into History, Potential Sensing & Working with What Might Be. Using Shamanism. WebMy daughter's boyfriend: 30 year old Mama's boy who lives at home, works a part-time deadend job, no education, 10 years older than my daughter, subtly manipulative, enjoys his responsibility-free lifestyle. Not towards work, but towards what you want to be! You say that you like non-practical areas and thats whats keeping you from working. Criticism Rarely Works. Soccer dad is not my thingy. Dont share your depression with another person with depression. It can be conflicting, considering that in America to be functional requires a very different mindset. But if I go on MTV and someone asks me, Boxers or briefs theyre going to get an earful. Every coin has its own pros and cons and unfortunately it may not be easy for us to inspire everyone or make it in our society, but we do have a place and when we find it, its usually somewhere special. What did I miss? Nurture them and hold them dear. While no classification is perfect or will cover all possibilities. He developed a following in the area, now plays many area and non-area clubs, colleges and universities. Repeating another monkey-slapped-typed mundane job well done. I feel like there is nothing for me out there. Starting from today, you should make a weekly goal. I got rid of everything and moved to Jamaica where my wife and I spent five years helping people and really making a difference. Nope! I have just quit my job only to find that there are issues with myRead more , Have been Unemployed for 7 years now, It was and is my fault, at my last Job I had the Worst diseplinary fecord of any, I had over 100 Verbal warnings, over 50 Written Warnings and 12 Final Written Warnings over 17 years of Employment with my last employer (1998 2015) I have applied for hundereds of jobs over the last 7 years, never had any interviews, only had one reply, and they said that they did not want my sort, and that I and society would be better off if I didnt bother, Society is better off withRead more . A bit later in the process, you will realize it isnt a reflection of yourself. Whats hopeless about that? Respecting the bad opinion people have of you when you dont respect the people having that opinion? Then DO IT! Hating money because of the way it has been abused makes about as much sense as hating food because it can make you fat. Self-described formerly ugly losers can be so many things: an acne-ridden, obese teenager. Enough savings to cover modest bucket list items and modest Whats stopping you? Thanks. Midlife Crisis Signs, Symptoms & Overview, Unemployed at Over 40 Time to Redefine Work. You do realise that money is just a transferable stand-in for Ill do you a favour if you do me a favour, right? Good luck. You are at a fragile point of living, so pushing too hard or hiding too much just doesnt help you live better. We are told that we are what we do and that we are fully responsible for what we do. once again, thank you so much for all the advices. My name is Hilary. I have a friend who just finished her schooling to be a Nurse Practioner. Using motion and personal insights to reinforce your life. @niki Take a shitty but paying job to pay for the courses and get a degree in something you care about. Do you have advice for the next person with a similar problem? The result? Youve got to go out and look for it, youve got to know what you want to do. There is nothing I can add that would say it any better. You seem to have a lot more issues than just the inability to cut the apron strings. I started working when I was 18 years old, and there were many years while raising 3 children by myself that I worked 2 and 3 jobs to keep afloat. At first, I went with the flow: having a career which would have been labeled an ideal lifestyle as shown thru parents, friends, the educational system, and general culture.

Just let the two different questions simmer after writing down initial answers. Depression pushes me away from them. Heres my story, briefly: When I was in grade 12, I won a years scholarship to the local university. @niki you just go in any field in which you are good. @Dutchess_III I saw in his previous posts that hes Asian. Other hint: Theyre psychology and astronomy. Did you progress? Challenge this economic machine that makes men turn on each other. This should be truly two separate questions: 1) What trade do you perform, and 2) Who are you. The world sucks. Once we understand our nature, in why we work, then it becomes much easier to find work, a job, which fits your lifestyle and needs.

Maybe none of them suit you, but at least try to identify them. A big Loser! Moderation is key in all actives. Anyone can change their life, no matter what age they are. I think that you sense and feel the evil in the world more than many people.

That is a major dance in itself. Some would advise you to shut up and get on with your life. Work is merely an activity within life. Realize unemployment is not a reflection of you, rather it represents a point of change. Yeah, you cant get into those fields without a degree, but let me tell you, its not too late to go to university at 30. There are a few truths that you need to know. Let them live their lives without interference from you and leave them alone (because if you find yourself hated by rich people, then youll learn what hell on earth can be). Oops. Apathy will not get a person very far. This distinction is very important. People tend to need both and if you only do one, its easy to lose your balance. I didnt go to college till I was 29, I got my HND in Law, then went to University to study for my MA, which I helped pay for by temping as a paralegal. The company used fear on its workers, telling us to be happy since we had a job and then treated workers without respect. Many very basic examples exist of this defining of our nature to a job. Pace your sleep with morning meditation. The average duration of unemployment for workers ages 55 to 64 was 11 months as recently as Now here is the change in understanding: A wise man once taught me sometimes you just need to change the question you are answering. And any royalties you would receive just drop in the Salvation Army kettle at Christmas time. If you want to do it, do it. Your problem is very simple, actually. You lack compelling, inspiring and overarching long-range goals and objectives, broken down into short-term, We cant always like what happens to us, but we must make the best of it. Do yourself a favor and find someone who can help you. Business people are excited about opportunities and new ventures. but Ive taken your advice as well as many others here, and will work on it,.slowly but sure. That way a) youll be independent which is always a good feeling and b) being independent you wont be forced to do what you parents tell you. You are destined to be a 50 year old high school teacher still living with their mother.~. I hated it and dropped out in November. FTL is often caused by a serious mental health condition, such as a generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) or agoraphobia.

I think you should continue to complain about the world. The truth is that Im 36 years old and have lived almost all of my adult life as a single man. How did things work out? Because, unless you want to start trading stocks or manage a business, thats all money will ever be to you, in practical terms. So, discovering how to release fear and the stories that come up from fear is a major part of the process. Sorry this isnt more help, but Ive a feeling youre looking to hear that youre right to be living as you are, youre not honey. Its the same thing only with one more step in between. I would suggest you find a therapist and keep in contact with them. You are at a fragile point in your spirit. This is not true. hugs xx. This is a day by day process. Sometimes I plan on relaxing working on getting healthier and focusing on my mind body and soul. All he wanted to do was rap music.

However, how often is the question seriously posed, Why do I work? with an attempt to then try to find a balance between the job and life. At times this in itself will be the key to give you an insight or an opportunity to use as work later. They simply made it clear that after HS I would either A) Go to college or B) Move out. Be aware of this and strive for a balanced lifestyle, simple but balanced. You say that you dislike, or even hate, the Money System.

Best wishes to you Rico! What do you really care about? Its practical. So now Im deciding that things really need start to change, You can learn to bite the bullet. We just went. You dont need to quit your job search entirely, or even take a months-long hiatus, in order to give yourself a break from job searching. even more, Im Chinese-Indonesian, and it seems like all the nightmare combination that you could think of, in terms of pursuing anything creative, let alone in something non-mainstream such as music! Instead of letting the worry hang over you, you should grab a piece of paper and break down this whole ambiguous worry into issues. This is hurting you. The comment form collects your name, email and content to allow us keep track of the comments placed on the website. I am 40 years old.

Lots of people do it. . I dont know you, and I dont intend to offend. Consider These 13 Tips. Remove anything from your life you dont truly need anymore; this helps make you more portable and able to transition into unexpected opportunities later.

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